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@gardenlobster.bsky.social Sep 25, 2026, 9:22 PM

Shattered is the word.

#shattered #CPTSD #PTSD #trauma #survivor #traumasurvivor #abusesurvivor #survivorstrong #healing #complexPTSD #complextrauma #narcissisticabuse

If you area trauma survivor and you feel like you've been shattered with no idea how to pick up the pieces that's so valid. Trauma can shatter our identity, our sense of self, and our core and it's so easy to get lost in the brokenness with no sense of self. If you feel this way it's so valid and it's not your fault.

@msipress.bsky.social Sep 25, 2026, 10:48 AM

#bestselling #kindle #books yesterday

#stalking #domesticviolence #abusesurvivor #sexualhealthrecovery #pornaddiction #Alzheimers #dementia #caregiving #languagelearning

@gardenlobster.bsky.social Sep 24, 2026, 9:21 PM

Life with my ex. I thought it was possible to get it right, but the goalposts shifted. There was always something to punish me for. He had a carceral mindset - punishment was OK as a way to treat people. A month of silent treatment broke my heart and my spirit. 💔
#ipv #abuse #CPTSD #abusesurvivor

Mental abuse is not just calling a person names. It is also ignoring them, invalidating their feelings, giving them the silent treatment, and saying things to make them doubt themselves and their own reality. It is neglecting and not considering their feelings, and basically treating a person like they don't count. It is just as damaging as physical abuse, if not more.

- Maria Consiglio
CPTSDfoundation.org

@gardenlobster.bsky.social Sep 24, 2026, 5:32 PM

#CPTSD #PTSD #DisabilityJustice #disability #ableism #trauma #traumasurvivor #abusesurvivor #survivorstrong #mentalhealth

Trauma is rarely ever viewed and treated for the disability that it is, even by folks who are committed to Disability Justice. One outcome of this is that the ableism that we endure for being traumatized is rarely ever recognized as real ableism. The same attitudes that are often condemned when directed towards other disabled folks (such as pressuring them into being "cured" or shaming them for their access needs), are accepted as normal when directed towards trauma.

Candice Alaska

Ableism, in any form, is not a "lesser" form of oppression and discrimination. Ableism is dangerous and can be lethal. Ableism towards trauma can lead to isolation, further disablement, and it facilitates eugenics. People are forced to mask their trauma to avoid being ostracized from their communities and to maintain their relationships, and anyone who cannot mask (aka perform neuroconformity or appear non-disabled) is usually shamed and isolated, often becoming even more disabled and impoverished.

Candice Alaska

Considering that many severely traumatized people (the people who may be least able to mask) are also often impoverished, this isolation can be a life sentence. This isolation can also render abuse victims/survivors extremely vulnerable to revictimization. If we care about survivors, we cannot ostracise them for being traumatized, or make their inclusion in our communities contingent upon "healing" or their "overcoming" their disability. We have to learn to make space for trauma now.

Candice Alaska

We cannot demand that people appear non-disabled/non-traumatized in order to be part of our communities. A Disability Justice framework recognizes that disabled people have inherent worth just as we are, and that we belong in and deserve community. Where ableism stigmatizes and ostracises survivors and our needs, a Disability Justice framework helps to keep survivors in community, and recognizes us as inherently whole, whether or not we can ever achieve "healing." Survivor liberation requires Disability Justice.

Candice Alaska

@gardenlobster.bsky.social Sep 24, 2026, 10:50 AM

#suicideprevention #abuse #abusesurvivor #CPTSD #survivor #survivorstrong #mentalhealth

Suicide Prevention is not shaming people who are victims of abuse

@vanessamayisautistic

@gardenlobster.bsky.social Sep 23, 2026, 5:07 PM

I'm on the other side of hopelessness. I had a concrete plan in May. Instead of going through with it, I reached out for help one last time, and someone caught my hand. I'm glad I stayed.

#hope #pleasestay #depression #CPTSD #mentalhealth #abusesurvivor #survivorstrong
#suicideprevention

Someone would notice.
Someone would care.
Someone would miss you.
Someone would grieve.

The world is better with you here.

@gardenlobster.bsky.social Sep 23, 2026, 12:03 PM

I thought I could. I know better now.

#narcissist #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticcult #abusesurvivor #survivorstrong #mentalhealth #CPTSD #healing #recovery

You cannot love someone into developing a conscience. You cannot be loyal enough to heal dishonesty. You cannot grow beautiful enough, patient enough, useful enough, forgiving enough to make another person choose to respect you.

@gardenlobster.bsky.social Sep 23, 2026, 2:13 AM

Never again.

#narcissisticabuse #abusesurvivor #survivorstrong #survivor

I found myself apologizing
to the very hands that choked me,
asking if my neck was too rough,
if my dying breaths
were ruining their peace

- zaynsaye poetry

@gardenlobster.bsky.social Sep 22, 2026, 2:35 PM

A Facebook friend reached out for #CPTSD resources. I gave her all I know (it's limited) and my therapist's name. I will never be controlled by a narcissist again and I will help as many others as I can on my way to freedom.

#healing #recovery #survivor #abusesurvivor #survivorstrong #mentalhealth

Some people will be dancing in the flames of their pain and still send sparks out to light the way for others. - unknown

@gardenlobster.bsky.social Sep 20, 2026, 12:49 AM

#CPTSD #recovery #healing #CPTSDAwareness #mentalhealth #hope #survivor #survivorstrong #abusesurvivor

Keep recovering out loud so the person suffering in silence knows there's an exit door.

@gardenlobster.bsky.social Sep 19, 2026, 9:59 PM

#suicideprevention #survivorstrong #survivor #abusesurvivor

Believing survivors is suicide prevention

@gardenlobster.bsky.social Sep 19, 2026, 5:49 PM

#narcissist #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticcult #CPTSD #healing #abusesurvivor

Sad truth is sometimes it takes years to finally catch on. The one fact that they never actually loved you. They just loved how easy you made yourself to reach, loved the way you showed up for them, loved that you poured all your time into them, loved that you always let their apologies slide, loved how you made them feel, loved the attention you gave, and at the end of it all, they just loved that you loved them.

@dsafire.bsky.social Sep 18, 2026, 12:37 AM

Jesus, #Effexor works fast.

175 mg later im tired but no longer frantic, terrified and losing the fight with the #Ideation.

#crazymeds #cptsd #suicide #anxiety #abuseSurvivor

@msipress.bsky.social Sep 17, 2026, 6:05 AM

#bestselling #Kindle #books yesterday

#ebooks #widower #bereavement #grief #resilience #aging #midlife #longevity #positivepsychology #stalkingsurvivor #domesticviolence #abusesurvivor #childhoodneglect #successafterabusivechildhood

@gardenlobster.bsky.social Sep 16, 2026, 5:04 PM

#narcissist #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticcult #survivor #abusesurvivor #survivorstrong #healing

@gardenlobster.bsky.social Sep 15, 2026, 7:36 PM

#narcissist #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticcult #survivor #abusesurvivor #healing #CPTSD #recovery #takingmylifeback

You don't just "get over" narcisstic abuse. You have to grieve the person they pretended to be, dismantle the reality they manufactured, and rebuild the parts of you they systematically destroyed.

@emmanueljohn.bsky.social Sep 15, 2026, 3:07 PM

I wish you had been treated better; I wish we all had. I could talk about this subject for hours; I think I do in the book. That's the neglect part. I spent 3 years writing it, not to make money but to
#Neglect #neglected #abusesurvivor #traumasurvivors #healingjourney #bettertogether #namaste

@gardenlobster.bsky.social Sep 14, 2026, 4:27 PM

This. This right here. This is everything.

#CPTSD #depression #recovery #healing #stay #pleasestay #hope #survivor #abusesurvivor #narcissisticabuse #domesticabuse #abusiverelationship #narcissist #cult #narcissisticcult #avoidantdiscard #personalhell #nextrightthing #babysteps

I don't know what your hell has been like. I tell you about mine to let you know that it is possible to keep going. To stay. To decide to put one foot in front of the other and just focus on the next right thing.

@msipress.bsky.social Sep 14, 2026, 12:02 AM

#bestselling #Kindle #books yesterday

#ebooks #aging #longevity #positivepsychology #midlife #fitnessover50 #running #racing #ultramarathons #cycling #Swimming #IronMan #abusesurvivor #stalkingsurvivor #domesticviolence #resilience #languagelearning #languagelearningshortcuts

@emmanueljohn.bsky.social Sep 10, 2026, 4:52 PM

I do not require my offender/s to take responsibility for my recovery or in order for me to heal. In fact, it will probably go much smoother without them being anywhere around me.
(FYI, I
#EmotionalHealingg
#traumarecovery
#AbuseSurvivor
#healthyself ever notice "heal thy self" in healthy-self ??