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@gardenlobster.bsky.social Oct 14, 2026, 9:27 PM

Learning this has been hard. My #trauma brain screams in opposition. But it's true. I deserve #love and compassion. I always did.

#CPTSD #complexPTSD #complextrauma #recovery #healing #healthychoices #selflove #selfacceptance #doingthework #babysteps #healingjourney

You deserve the love you keep trying to give everyone else

@gardenlobster.bsky.social Oct 14, 2026, 8:32 PM

Practicing this lately. #Healing #CPTSD really is about getting the amygdala to chill out and the prefrontal cortex to come back online.

#complexPTSD #complextrauma #babysteps #doingthework #healingjourney

Every time you replace "this is overwhelming" with "what's the first step?" you shift your brain activity from your amygdala (fear) to your prefrontal cortex (problem-solving).

That's neuroplasticity in real time.

@gardenlobster.bsky.social Oct 14, 2026, 4:06 PM

I'm longer interested in what strangers & unsafe people think of me. Going forward, I'm doing the next right thing for me. I'm finally putting my needs first, and I need to heal this brain injury.

#CPTSD #complextrauma #complexPTSD #recovery #healing #healingjourney #doingthework #babysteps

If we're going to meaningfully recover from trauma, we're going to have to be ok with being misunderstood & misrepresented.

There are people who are not interested in truly seeing us or meeting us where we are - & we have to let that have nothing to do with our recovery.

- Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @DrDoyleSays

@gardenlobster.bsky.social Oct 13, 2026, 5:18 PM

I've walked away from a lot of #shame by working on #self-abandonment and self worth. It feels lighter. I'm much less depressed. The constant self hatred has stopped.

#CPTSD #recovery #healing #healingjourney #babysteps #doingthework #depression #mentalhealth #selfworth #selflove #selfacceptance

1. Shame for something that was done to you
2. Shame about someone else's actions
3. Shame due to stigma or prejudice
4. Shame resulting from someone else's judgment
5. Shame for having different values than someone
6. Shame because you said no or set a boundary
7. Shame that was passed down to you by family
8. Shame about your emotions or needs
9. Shame for struggling or needing support
10. Shame that's conditioned from early life

@gardenlobster.bsky.social Oct 12, 2026, 5:04 PM

#CPTSD #childhoodtrauma #attachmentrauma #complextrauma #abusesurvivor #neglectsurvivor #emotionalneglect #healing #recovery #doingthework #babysteps #survivorstrong

Healing is when the big human finally becomes the safe place the little human was waiting for.

@gardenlobster.bsky.social Oct 9, 2026, 1:25 PM

#CPTSD #PTSD #recovery #healing #survivor #abusesurvivor #survivorstrong #mentalhealth #doingthework #babysteps

You are allowed to be both grateful for your survival and tired of how much you had to survive.

@gardenlobster.bsky.social Sep 29, 2026, 7:56 PM

#CPTSD #recovery #healing #mentalhealth #survivorstrong #doingthework #babysteps

Just in case no one told you today, I'm proud of you and you're doing a great job.

@gardenlobster.bsky.social Sep 29, 2026, 4:11 PM

Narcissists don't work on themselves. They only go to therapy to attempt to manipulate the therapist to DARVO their victims and make false apologies. The behavior won't change.

#narcissist #narcissisticabuse #abuserecovery #healing #healingjourney #abusesurvivor #survivorstrong #doingthework

You are not an energy source for people who refuse to do their inner work.

@getpaulhoward.bsky.social Sep 25, 2026, 8:15 PM

Day 2…. HAPPENING NOW…
#strongertogether❤️ #IVAT #doingthework #community #sandiego
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@gardenlobster.bsky.social Sep 16, 2026, 1:41 PM

#CPTSD #recovery #healing #depression #mentalhealth #doingthework #babysteps

@gardenlobster.bsky.social Sep 12, 2026, 4:43 AM

But if the only way out is through, then I'll keep putting one foot in front of the other. I'll keep #doingthework. Because I refuse to let some unhealed spoiled brats with god complexes win. Each day I live, each extra bit of love I grow for myself, they fail harder.
#survivor

@gardenlobster.bsky.social Sep 11, 2026, 8:56 PM

I'm not here to make it look easy. It isn't. But I'd rather work on the hard shit than perpetuate patterns that drew me to abusers. I'm here to make the world a better place not be a punching bag for narcissists. Even if I was the villain? I'm still the one #doingthework.

#CPTSD #survivor #healing

@gardenlobster.bsky.social Sep 11, 2026, 4:08 PM

For #CPTSD from childhood trauma, we have to learn how to love our real selves without knowing what it is to have been loved, or who our real selves are. That's hard shit. We have no models for that, so we learn it in #trauma therapy. It's called #reparenting.

#healing #innerchild #doingthework