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Tim Banks: VibeRel Advocate

@elchefe.me

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BJJ practitioner and teacher, empathetic technology advocate. Neurospicy, mentally ill, and unapologetic. Black/Latino, nonbinary (they/them) , pan/poly. spüße müße. Opinions are my own. EN/SP/PT

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@elchefe.meOct 10, 2026, 1:49 AM

Happy SBR/SBS/Suppressor day to those of you who celebrate

@elchefe.meOct 9, 2026, 1:11 AM

Ian has dedicated their life to helping and advocating for others. Let’s get together and help them out if you can.

LIan Coldwater 🧊🚫@lookitup.babyOct 9, 2026, 12:39 AM

I feel terrible asking this, but my debit card got stolen and I don’t currently have the funds in my account to cover some upcoming payments while I sort the dispute out with the bank. If anyone could help spot me, I would really appreciate that! V: @Ian-Coldwater CA: $iancoldwater PP: @coldwater

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@elchefe.meOct 9, 2026, 1:10 AM

Always happy to help. You’ve been there for me in ways you don’t even know.

@lookitup.babyOct 9, 2026, 12:39 AMReposted by @elchefe.me

I feel terrible asking this, but my debit card got stolen and I don’t currently have the funds in my account to cover some upcoming payments while I sort the dispute out with the bank. If anyone could help spot me, I would really appreciate that! V: @Ian-Coldwater CA: $iancoldwater PP: @coldwater

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@elchefe.meOct 8, 2026, 11:15 PM

Got my professor bars today. This is meaningful. Not everyone who can *do* can *teach*. This is the recognition that I can do both

A black Brazilian jiu-jitsu uniform, folded into a tidy square bundle, rests on a dark gray textured training mat, photographed from above. The photo is rotated, so the writing runs sideways, reading from bottom to top. The jacket's heavy, ribbed pearl-weave cotton has a visible grid-like texture. Bold, golden-yellow embroidered block letters stacked in two lines spell "BRAZILIAN TOP TEAM" across the front. Beside the lettering, a solid golden silhouette of a standing figure with arms raised overhead is stitched into the fabric.

Draped above the bundle is a long black belt, folded back and forth in loose loops that curve up toward the top left of the frame. The belt is thick, flat, and finely woven, with a subtle herringbone pattern. At one end, a bright red patch with a faint geometric maze-like pattern is bordered by two thin white stripes. This is the bar where a black belt's rank stripes are placed. Beyond it, a short black tip of fabric extends out.

At the bottom right edge of the frame, a small sliver of bright yellow, likely another mat or piece of gear, peeks into view.
@elchefe.meOct 8, 2026, 11:07 PM

My love, you are so beautiful 😘😘😘

@elchefe.meOct 4, 2026, 7:15 PM

As to the health effects of various types of labor, maybe look at some of the studies around what sitting at a desk, staring at a screen for 8-12 hours a day with overhead fluorescent lighting and hydrating yourself with energy drinks and Diet Coke does to your physical and mental health.

@elchefe.meOct 4, 2026, 7:10 PM

Watching a bunch of supposedly left-leaning tech workers toe the capitalist line that their labor of typing on keyboards is somehow superior to blue collar work is disappointing but not surprising. Why isn’t is surprising? Because I see how y’all treat service staff and workers at conferences.

@elchefe.meOct 4, 2026, 7:04 PM

The reason people accuse of elitism is because this is an elitist stance. The idea that instead of shunning blue collar labor because it doesn’t pay enough or is hard on the body one could be advocating for better pay, working conditions, and healthcare for blue collar workers doesn’t even register.

@elchefe.meOct 4, 2026, 7:00 PM

I’d also add that both my parents and my sister went to college, even got graduate degrees, and I, with my high school diploma, make more than all them them ever did combined and adjusted for inflation. The notion that you *need* college or your fate is meaningless toil is, itself, rooted in elitism

@elchefe.meOct 4, 2026, 6:58 PM

I know what damage it does and I wasn’t sad at all when my oldest dropped out of college and became an electrician’s apprentice. The fact that so many of us make a lot of money to type on keyboards and people doing essential work get paid so little is a failure of the system, not their career choice

@elchefe.meOct 4, 2026, 6:25 PM

I started my career in construction and also was a chef. I knew and still know a lot of 50- and 60- year old guys in trades. They’re master bricklayers, master electricians, foremen, etc. It’s definitely not zero and you can thank unions for their ability to progress based on their experience.

@elchefe.meOct 4, 2026, 6:22 PM

It’s def giving “I don’t want to work at the ‘putting kids into a woodchipper factory! They’re awful! That’s why I work at the ‘crush kids under a steamroller’ factory instead!”

@elchefe.meOct 3, 2026, 8:36 PM

We don’t have any of that there but we did have our first < 90° day since May, so that’s something 😊

@elchefe.meSep 28, 2026, 6:54 PM

me too 🥺

@elchefe.meSep 26, 2026, 12:54 AM

That one time I world championships when I was floating

At the IBJJF World No-Gi Championships, a competitor in a black rash guard and shorts, with "Brazilian Top Team" printed across the back, drives over his opponent in a powerful, off-balance pass. His body forms a tight inverted arch, hips high and legs spread wide, one bare foot planted on the mat while the other kicks out behind him in mid-motion. His weight crashes down onto a competitor in a blue rash guard with a mohawk-style hairstyle, whose head is pinned beneath the chest of the man on top. The bottom competitor, wearing a green wristband, reaches out with one hand in a scramble to defend. Both are locked in a moment of raw pressure and split-second timing on the blue competition mat, framed by yellow safety barriers, an IBJJF banner with its lion logo, and a referee's dark-clad legs at the edge of the frame.
@elchefe.meSep 24, 2026, 2:48 PM

Is there any help we can offer? ❤️

@elchefe.meSep 24, 2026, 2:48 PM

🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂

@elchefe.meSep 21, 2026, 7:43 AM

🥰🥰🥰

@elchefe.meSep 21, 2026, 7:42 AM

I love you too bby ❤️❤️

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