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D.L. Mayfield (they/them)

@dlmayfield.bsky.social

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Autistic non-binary, exvangelical, tired. Co-founder of STRONGWILLED, a multi-media project focused on survivors of religious authoritarian parenting methods.
http://strongwilledproject.com

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@mangiotto.bsky.socialOct 10, 2026, 1:48 PMReposted by @dlmayfield.bsky.social

I think it's fun and funny that a religion that wears a public execution device around to signal their righteousness is upset about a public execution. Is it a competition thing?

@dlmayfield.bsky.socialOct 9, 2026, 6:21 PM

everyone with a narcissistic parent knows the drill here. time to buckle up.

@dlmayfield.bsky.socialOct 8, 2026, 7:51 PM

I'm exploring how to get over my extreme fear of public speaking after having a bunch of terrible experiences over the past decade (mostly in white evangelical spaces where men ended up screaming at me). What are your best tips for this stuff?

@dlmayfield.bsky.socialOct 8, 2026, 4:31 PM

ha! I was reading the quote and nodding my head vigorously and then I realized . . . 😂

@evanderkacz.bsky.socialOct 8, 2026, 3:19 PMReposted by @dlmayfield.bsky.social

Incredibly creepy, because, as a wise person once observed: religiondispatches.org/2026/05/07/j...

A screenshot of text that reads: “So starting from 1970, Dobson was telling parents you have to physically spank your child or you’re not a good Christian. That alone is pretty sadistic, but then he makes sure nobody can talk about consent with their kids. Nobody can talk about autonomy, because the second you teach your kid that they have a right to say no to unsafe and unwanted touches, you can’t spank them anymore. You ruin the whole authoritarian parenting playbook.”
@t2thacoops.bsky.socialOct 8, 2026, 2:45 PMReposted by @dlmayfield.bsky.social

evangelical parents: ok but what if instead of listening to our children we downloaded this gaslighting machine that looks like a pastor that will tell us we, the authorities, are definitely NOT the problem, ad infinitum?!

@dlmayfield.bsky.socialOct 8, 2026, 2:42 PM

Every time you see a headline about a conservative Christian pastor, elder, public figure or missionary arrested for child sexual abuse I want you to remember that the vast majority get away with it. The ones who are caught are just a small percentage of those committing these kinds of crimes.

@kennethefrantz.bsky.socialOct 8, 2026, 1:13 PMReposted by @dlmayfield.bsky.social

@madolynhenderson.bsky.socialOct 8, 2026, 2:09 AMReposted by @dlmayfield.bsky.social

‘James Dobson chatbot’ is not a phrase I ever expected to encounter in my lifetime.

@dlmayfield.bsky.socialOct 8, 2026, 2:41 PM

I can't wait for this AI endeavor to gobble up whatever money this place has left.

@dlmayfield.bsky.socialOct 7, 2026, 11:40 PM

The James Dobson Family Institute is creating an AI app that helps parents get wisdom from -- you guessed it -- James Dobson. Presumably it will be dispensing a lot of advice to parents wondering why their adult children are now going no-contact with them . . . www.drjamesdobson.org/featured/dr-...

@dlmayfield.bsky.socialOct 7, 2026, 4:47 PM

We are now under contract to publish a physical book on this same subject, but I wanted to remind people that you can read 20+ chapters and listen to our podcast episodes for freeeeeeeee right now. Just google strongwilled project and find our website and our podcast :)

@dlmayfield.bsky.socialOct 7, 2026, 4:45 PM

You are exactly correct that so many of these pieces are interviewing the parents about why *they* think estrangement is happening . . . instead of asking the adult children of these parents. So that's what our project does. Our podcast episodes on estrangement are by far our most popular.

@dlmayfield.bsky.socialOct 7, 2026, 4:44 PM

Thank you so much for shining a light on this topic! I write and podcast about issues in homes that utilize religious authoritarian parenting methods (think James Dobson and Focus on the Family) and estrangement is a natural outcome in these families : www.strongwilledproject.com/chapter-12-e...

@atrupar.comOct 6, 2026, 8:15 PMReposted by @dlmayfield.bsky.social

Trump shouts out Russ Vought and then says, ominously, "we have some big surprises coming up in a few weeks, right Russ? He's gonna be one of the important people in the history of our country."

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@dlmayfield.bsky.socialOct 6, 2026, 2:58 PM

The concept of hell isn’t just used to terrorize little children into a lifetime of religious devotion . . . It also works well to desensitize people to the suffering of other humans and enable them to ignore or even cheer on genocidal actions.

@dlmayfield.bsky.socialOct 6, 2026, 2:57 PM

If you believe everyone outside of your little cult is going to be tortured for all of eternity in hell it doesn’t bother you if your president publicly talks about bombing entire cities in your country. In fact, you might just cheer it on as deserved punishment for what you perceive as sin.

@taniel.bsky.socialOct 3, 2026, 10:46 PMReposted by @dlmayfield.bsky.social

Oh: I really can’t emphasize enough how useful it is to check — literally right now, do it. Likely, it’s peace of mind in a couple of minutes. At worst, you still have time (barely) to remedy it.

@timothysnyder.bsky.socialOct 3, 2026, 1:37 AMReposted by @dlmayfield.bsky.social

It appears that the National Guard shot and killed an unarmed man (in the back).
www.bbc.com/news/article...

bbc.comAutopsy shows National Guard fatally shot Memphis man in the backThe report conflicts with the authorities’ initial account, which said Tyrin Johnson had been shot in the chest.
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@dlmayfield.bsky.socialOct 3, 2026, 3:29 PM

as a parent of two incredibly smart kids, one of whom is 16, I can confirm it's a fucking nightmare. So much of the work I do is fueled by my rage that my children deserve so, so much better than this

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