DYK 19thC social purity feminists also wanted to ban #SoloSex? They expected men to limit sex play to fulfill only the needs of the family for having kids. They were not seeking #SexualLiberation for women & wanted to take it from men. HowSexGotScrewedUp.com #HistSex #bators

Still a crime, #fornication/#SexPlay before marriage was a “dishonor” against God, against the girl’s family, against civilization, & against the city itself. But now it often led to marriage. Ghosts of #HistSex still haunt. HowSexGotScrewedUp.com

The countdown continues for #mattersofsex! Learn more about the subject of my new book, pioneering sex researcher Katharine Bement Davis, in my very first published piece about her courtesy of the fabulous @nursingclio.bsky.social!
#histsex #womenshistory #sexuality nursingclio.org/2021/09/16/w...

In English: Volume III, Part 1, the Annual of Sexual Intermediaries, ed. Magnus Hirschfeld. It chronicles the goals, strategies and interests of the Early #GermanGay Rights Movement #MagnusHirschfeld § 175 Memory #LGBTQhistory #QueerStudies #histsex www.amazon.com/dp/B0CQ8M7DFT

DYK novelist Émile Laurent (d.1897) described some women’s theft of silk as a #fetish & sexual turn on:

HowSexGotScrewedUp.com #HistSex #kleptomania #WmnHist

DYK some 19thC doctors thought women (not men) carried their passion for love too far? Jean-étienne Esquirol (d.1840) invented “#erotomania”. It was when a woman thought an unobtainable man, either married or of a different social class, loved her. HowSexGotScrewedUp.com #HistSex

These groups of lovers committed to be openly intimate. But no laws defended them. In ‘98, for example, the state of Tennessee took a child away from April Divilbiss because she was in a relationship with two men. Ghosts of #HistSex still haunt. HowSexGotScrewedUp.com

DYK in the 1960s and ‘70s, more & more young people lived “counter-culture” lives? Some lived on communes & played w/new forms of relationships, family constellations, & sexuality. Many had intimate, sexual, & / or loving relations w/more than one person.
#HistSex

DYK early Christians formed #SameSexMarriage based on #SpiritualLove & #PassionateFriendships? Many assumed it to be #sexless. Others called it “sharing the same tent”—the relationship between a guy & his mistress. HowSexGotScrewedUp.com #HistSex #QueerHistory

Total strangers shared beds. Owners of taverns, & inns, as well as private homes, often offered guests beds that w/other people in them. This could lead to quarrels or caresses. Ghosts of #HistSex still haunt. HowSexGotScrewedUp.com

“are the very ones that women have in modern times denounced as trivializing and humiliating qualities imposed on them by a misogynist culture. No wonder men are in such agony.”
Ghosts of #HistSex still haunt. HowSexGotScrewedUp.com

“It seemed to me that men weren’t really the enemy—they were fellow victims, suffering from an outmoded masculine mystique that made them feel unnecessarily inadequate when there were no bears to kill.”
Ghosts of #HistSex still haunt. HowSexGotScrewedUp.com

The countdown continues for MATTERS OF SEX: KATHARINE BEMENT DAVIS AND AMERICA'S FIRST SEXUAL REVOLUTION, coming from NYU Press on Nov. 10! Davis's opinions about sex work policy remain relevant today. Learn more below and pre-order the book now! #sexwork #mattersofsex #womenshistory #histsex

DYK Bruce Feirstein’s 1982 “Real Men Don’t Eat Quiche” was a satire about what makes a manly man? He belittled all men’s efforts to prove their masculinity—from the macho guy to the urban dilettante. Ghosts of #HistSex still haunt. HowSexGotScrewedUp.com

DYK straight men drank ritual wine out of a phallic chalice at the 18thC Wig Club in England? Do straight guys put their mouths on anything like a #penis today? Ghosts of #GenderHistory still haunt.
HowSexGotScrewedUp.com #HistSex #PhallusThursday #QueerHistory

DYK in 1st half of 20thC, straight guys didn’t lose their straight cred if they had #SexPlay w/#queers? “Fags” were as successful at picking them up as women #SexWorkers, & men became MORE masculine by penetrating another guy. HowSexGotScrewedUp.com #HistSex #QueerHistory

“& rejection of the values of the opposite sex is losing much of its purpose. Similarly, as the social status of the two sexes approaches equality, many boys appear to feel less need to defend a shaky claim to superiority.” Ghosts of #HistSex still haunt. HowSexGotScrewedUp.com

“We no longer want to strain & compete to live up to an impossible oppressive masculine image—strong, silent, cool, handsome, unemotional, successful, master of women, leader of men, wealthy, brilliant, athletic, & ‘heavy’.” Ghosts of #HistSex still haunt. HowSexGotScrewedUp.com

DYK soldiers in Rome's army found the macho god, #Mithra, very appealing & manly? They excluded women from his cult & thronged to more than 100 temples in the city of Rome alone. Ghosts of the #HistSex still haunt. HowSexGotScrewedUp.com #GenderHistory #misogyny #WmnHist

DYK Carol Cassell says this #HistSex, HOW SEX GOT SCREWED UP, is “…a masterpiece about “…why we feel and act the way we do about sex” from the #StoneAge to #MeToo? HowSexGotScrewedUp.com #GayMarriage #QueerHistory #QueerSex #SexWork #TrumpKKKristian #WmnHist #Zoophilia