My guest blog post on the CPTSD Foundation website today is one of my most popular Substack posts. #cptsd #complextrauma #panicattack #anxietyhelp #stressmanagement

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Someone else’s forgiveness rarely resolves shame. Don’t get me wrong, guilt and shame are both unpleasant. But the work of shame is internal, and no external absolution fully tames it.

#complextrauma #cptsd #complexptsd #hardrelationships #couplestherapy

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That is what happens when someone steals our personhood in exchange for sex. BUT IT'S JUST A GHOST FROM THE PAST It's a reflection of them not us. #traumahealing #abused #sexualabuse #complextrauma #complextraumarecovery #complextraumahealing

#cptsd #complextrauma #relationships #narcissisticabuse #emotionalhealth

To take someone who’s chosen to care for you and intentionally decide to care less in order to gain power and control is the very mechanism of abuse.
#cptsd #complextrauma #narcissisticabuse #toxicrelationships #relationships

Many survivors know the pattern where the abusive person prods and pokes their target, and it’s the target’s reaction that is pointed at as the source of conflict.

#cptsd #conflictresolution #complexptsd #complextrauma #narcissisticabuse

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Childhood trauma is exactly like that. IYKYK, sadly.
One minute we're kids having a childhood then, GONE!!!
#ComplexTrauma #complexptsd

“Will I outlive this pain?”

Complex trauma survivors may feel this every single day even if they don’t think it.

#betrayaltrauma #narcissisticabuse
#cptsd #complextrauma #complexptsd

💭 How do #mentalizing and a systemic approach help with #complextrauma in children?

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Getting in touch with underlying needs may take patience—particularly for survivors who learned early that having needs was dangerous, inconvenient, or something to be ashamed of.

#cptsd #complextrauma #conflictresolution #complexptsd #emotionalabuse

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CPTSD Survivors: it’s okay to scroll past the 9/11 content today. You can safeguard your emotional load, and that doesn’t mean you don’t care.

You’re allowed to set down burdens that don’t belong to you.

#cptsd #complextrauma #windowoftolerance #911remembrance #complexptsd #neverforget

If someone's abusive while battling an addiction, it’s not “the two of you against the disease.” You do not need to endure abuse in the name of supporting someone.

Addiction is no excuse for abuse.

#cptsd #complextrauma #complexptsd #emotionalabuse #addictionsupport

Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is just stay regulated and feel okay for a day.

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It is a cult tactic to manufacture outrage at anyone who thinks differently. It is a type of brainwashing. No dialogue, no chance you might change your opinions, or see a different side of things.

Do you know any organization that does this?

#complextrauma

Someone is hurt, or says they are, and they want an apology—but after honest reflection, you don’t believe you did something wrong.

#ConflictResolution #cptsd #apology #complextrauma #hsp

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